Episode #186- Your job's not draining you... your phone is! - w/ Brendon Burchard

Episode Notes: 

Is your job leaving you burnt-out at the end of each day?... is it really because of the work?

Is it possible we are getting less done at work during the day, but feeling more mentally drained than ever before?

Speaking of drained, how’s your battery life on your cell phone?... charging it more often than you used to?

What if it wasn’t actually your job mentally draining you… could your smartphone be the real culprit behind your mental fatigue? 

With the help of this clip from top speaker, Brendon Bouchard, we explore these provocative questions, challenging the common assumption that our jobs are the primary source of burnout. We dissect the hidden impact of spending hours on social media platforms like Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok, revealing how they foster a cycle of judgment and comparison that leaves us mentally exhausted and unfocused. Rather than blaming your workload, we encourage you to take a closer look at your digital habits and consider the profound effects they may have on your mental well-being and societal interactions.
 
Navigating the maze of habitual comparisons can be exhausting, but breaking free is essential for personal growth and success. In his presentation, he highlights how social media activates our mirror neurons, shaping our self-perception and contributing to unnecessary mental drain. Visualization and connecting with our future selves emerge as powerful tools to unlock potential and enthusiasm. By being more mindful of our digital consumption and ensuring that it is uplifting and growth-oriented, we learn how to reduce burnout and foster a vibrant, fulfilled life. Join us on this episode as we reflect on these insights and consider making mindful changes that enhance both personal and professional well-being.

Guest Info: Brendon Burchard - https://brendon.com/

Link to YouTube: Brendon Burchard- How To Achieve More Aliveness

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Chapters

• 0:00 Mental Drain From Device Overuse
• 8:21 Breaking the Comparison Judgment Cycle

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Does your job leave you burned out at the end of each day? Are you sure it's your work? Are you actually getting less done at work or home in the same amount of time, same amount of hours that you did a year ago or two years ago? Is it possible we are working less during the day but feeling more mentally drained than ever before? Speaking of drained, how's your battery life on your cell phone Charging it more often than you used to? What if it wasn't actually your job mentally draining you, but really that device that almost never leaves your hand?

Speaker 2: 0:41

Welcome to the MindWrench Podcast with your host, rick Sellover, where minor adjustments produce major improvements in mindset, personal growth and success. This is the place to be every Monday, where we make small improvements and take positive actions in our business and personal lives that will make a major impact in our success, next-level growth and quality of life.

Speaker 1: 1:14

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Speaker 1: 1:55

Hey, let me ask you something. Does your job leave you burned out at the end of each day? Are you sure it's your work? Are you actually getting less done at work or home in the same amount of time, same amount of hours that you did a year ago or two years ago? Is it possible we are working less during the day but feeling more mentally drained than ever before. Speaking of drained, how's your battery life on your cell phone, charging it more often than you used to? What if it wasn't actually your job mentally draining you, but really that device that almost never leaves your hand?

Speaker 1: 2:32

I see it more and more every day. Everywhere I go, I look around me. When I enter a room, place of business, a restaurant, doctor's office, a store or, sadly, at every stoplight. What do I see? People just staring down at their phone, scrolling and scrolling and scrolling, consuming content. Sometimes I feel like I'm the only one that's not staring at their phone, although, in all honesty, I do way too much as well.

Speaker 1: 2:59

It's truly a disease that's taken over our daily lives. It's more addictive than most drugs. I believe it's making us dumber as a nation. It's paralyzing our kids, leaving them unable to focus on anything or working on advancing or becoming better versions of themselves, and leaving the grown-ups just plain wiped out. At the end of the day, what are we spending all that time consuming or scrolling through or swiping through? It's just so negative, so useless, so pointless. It's just plain garbage, and we're force-feeding it right into our minds on a consistent basis. Recently, I listened to a clip from a favorite speaker of mine, brendan Bouchard, and it really helped me understand why we're feeling more burned out and mentally drained every day, and how it has nothing to do with our work. This week I thought I'd share it with you as well, hoping you may gain a little insight and maybe start being a little bit more mindful about how you and your family as well use your devices. Here's Brendan.

Speaker 3: 3:56

Listen.

Speaker 3: 3:57

I know a lot of older people bemoan the youth of today. But it's tough right now. This is a tough time to grow up. I mean it really. We got gotta be nice to the kids, man. The kids I know, all those kids are lazy. Your parents said that about you and your grandparents said it about your parents. Every generation thinks the new generation is lucky, entitled, lazy. Every generation in history of human recorded history has said the same thing. All these new youth you can go way back and find this Literally 4,000 years ago in Hinduism. Already talking about the new generation, it's a hard time. It's been a hard few years. There's a lot of division and and many of you you know, myself included were lucky not to grow up comparing ourselves.

Speaker 3: 4:53

A hundred swipes a day. You know that's some poison right there. You know, what people don't understand is the average person right now is spending over an hour and a half a day on Facebook or Instagram, just by those two. Add TikTok and now we're into two hours plus of what is called consumption. But the reality is, when you're consuming those things, it does two things to you. The first thing that you can. You can't control either of them and most people are doing two hours of it over about 1,500 exposures to two psychological things that happen immediately when you grab that phone and you go through it or you look Instagram doesn't matter TikTok, pick your poison, whatever you go through. What most people don't understand is, psychologically, two things immediately happen that you cannot control.

Speaker 3: 5:42

First and foremost, you judge Every swipe. You judge Instantaneous training of judgment. Is this worthwhile, is this relevant? Do I like it? Is it worth a like? Is it worth a share? Is it worth a comment? So, 1,500 times you go, do I like it? Is it worth it? Should I share it? 1,500 times a day? You've heard of Pavlovs dogs? Right, if you do something repeatedly, that's just. You become automated about it. Well, we become automated about judgment. The reason there's so much divisiveness is because every day on our device, we are conditioning ourselves to judge, the more you. Every swipe is a judgment. Isn't it Worth saying on it or leaving Judgment, judgment, judgment.

Speaker 3: 6:31

1,500 times a day. Think about that. 1,500 judgments. Some of you are like I don't know how do these high performers do it? Because they're not doing 1,500 decisions like that, like many other people are, because you know what that's mental allocation. That's your mental capital, every judgment and decision. It's the same reason. You hear all these guys in Silicon Valley who they always wear the same shirt or the same clothes because they want to take away that. One extra judgment every day, one less decision, so their mind power can be fresh on other things. Well, if you spend 1,500 judgments a day, which is average, spend 1,500 judgments a day, which is average, by the way. Think about that. You're like Brendan.

Speaker 1: 7:18

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Speaker 1: 7:26

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Speaker 1: 8:28

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Speaker 3: 9:00

The second thing it forces you to immediately do is compare. 1,500 comparisons. Two hours of comparison a day. Two hours of comparison. You actually, you think I don't compare. I love when people say, brendan, I don't compare.

Speaker 3: 9:15

When I look at social media, I'm evolved. I can look at it and stay centered. I know myself. I don't look at it like you do and it's like, oh, need some neuroscience training. You can't help it. There's this thing called your mirror neurons. You can't control it.

Speaker 3: 9:33

When you see another human doing something, your brain immediately wonders what it would look like for you to be doing it or experiencing it. It's how you develop and feel a sense of connection or empathy to things, or how you can imagine yourself. You see a guy jumping off a thing and landing and it's a scary jump and leap. You feel this adrenaline watching somebody else do it, and you're not even doing it. You're the safety of your own home and you see that guy jump off the cliff and he's got the wingsuit and he's flying over Norway or some Scandinavian place. You're like wow and you feel the adrenaline. Your palms are sweating. That's the mirror neurons. You can't control. It just happens for most people. So now what happens? Two hours a day judging, two hours a day comparing, and you wonder why you don't have a fresh mental image of yourself, why you don't feel a vibrant connection with yourself, why sometimes, when I do those activities, I know some of you in this room like Brandon, when you told me to close my eyes and see my future self, I didn't see anything Right, exactly, and that's why you need to do this as a practice. Raise your hand if you follow Exactly.

Speaker 3: 10:39

For those of you, you're like Brendan, I struggled to see anything Exactly. That's why you need to do that every day. Right, it's the same as saying like, if you're like Brendan, my biceps are so small. It's like, yeah, you don't use it. You don't see yourself and get enthusiastic about yourself and who you are becoming, can become and can achieve because you don't see it, you don't use that part of your brain.

Speaker 3: 11:02

So now you draw a blank when you ask to think about the future. You have to condition that. That's why everyone talks about in good old personal development, that visualization. Right, it's so important. I just want you to be conscious of it because if, for some reason today we went through what we went through and you're lacking that connection with your future self. You're not seeing or sensing the enthusiasm. You're probably in the comfortable life or in that caged part, and what happens in those two parts is you get disconnected from the best of who you are, you get disconnected from that vision.

Speaker 3: 11:35

And so what's happening is you are always playing the immediate game, just right here, right now Reaction, reaction, reaction, reaction, reaction, reaction, reaction, reaction. But what you're really doing is comparison judgment, comparison judgment, comparison judgment. So at the end of the day, you're mentally spent. Comparison judgment, comparison judgment. So at the end of the day, you're mentally spent.

Speaker 3: 11:53

Some people today, they are so mentally spent at the end of the day and you look at their actual workload and their actual responsibilities and it is not reflective of that burnout. Does anyone know what I mean? Like you go, oh, you're. You know, if we were back in a different era, before phones, we would say like doctors were like, well, that's weird, you're that stressed and that mentally fatigued with this job. So there used to be occupational research studies that studied the stress of different occupations. Right, right, many of those same occupations, today, measured, are experiencing double-digit increase in stress in a two-decade span of time. What happened? The job didn't change, the occupation didn't change. It's that that same person is doing even the same work, even the same processes when they study, like specific things in engineering or specific things in construction, the same types of things could be happening. Processes when they study, like specific things in engineering or specific things in construction, the same types of things could be happening. The difference is they added 1,500 mentally exhausting comparisons and judgments.

Speaker 3: 13:01

Who falls? I'm talking about? I want you to be so vitally aware of this, so insanely aware about when you start consuming or you start using something. If you're consuming, it better be growing you up, it better be lighting you up, engaging you, making you excited. Otherwise, let me tell you what garbage in, garbage out.

Speaker 3: 13:18

Yeah, a lot of people who are mentally drained. Their jobs, occupations and realities. It's not they would feel so much better, but they're mentally drained all the time. And I can tell you, traveling the world this last year, a lot of people mentally drained, but they're mentally drained doing very easy jobs. They're mentally drained when they're like well, brendan, you don't understand. I have one child. I'm like. My partner has eight children in one of my businesses. Eight children. He's vibrant because he's not doing the additional additional 1,500 swipes.

Speaker 3: 13:55

Who follows what I'm talking about. I really want you to be attentive to this right now. If today, when we talked about anything in your future, if you haven't found an enthusiasm yet in self or in future, I want to let you know either A you're tired or B you're out of practice. Seeing the best of who you are. I see it.

Speaker 3: 14:19

If you listen to Ed Milet's podcast, you would think every guest in the world that he has on there is the best human being should win a Nobel Prize for just the most extraordinary, amazing. He just lavishes love and praise on people and some of them make fun of him. But, like, often you haven't got any of that praise for so long. Often you haven't visualized yourself for so long and so you're playing small because you're in immediacy, you're in comparison, you're in judgment. I just want you to be really attentive to this today, like when you sleep tonight and you're thinking about, like wow, we were doing those activities.

Speaker 3: 14:54

I didn't feel the pop when he was talking about the pop. I didn't feel that energy, that enthusiasm. I couldn't see, I couldn't relate, I couldn't connect. And don't get down on yourself and say, go, oh, I'm out of practice. Everyone say it with me I'm out of practice. Everyone say it with me I'm out of practice. If you don't feel joyful, it's not because joy doesn't exist in your heart and your soul. You forgot the power plant doesn't have energy it. You got out of the practice of generating energy. Some of you got out of the practice of generating the vision of who you're going to become. You've been in survival mode and in survival mode. You got comfortable there and sometimes when you're survival mode, when you're in the cage, it's very uncomfortable to try to imagine a future dream.

Speaker 1: 15:44

Well, hopefully that clip from Brendan better explained how all that scrolling and swiping is negatively affecting our minds. Maybe we can all start making some better choices that will leave us more energized instead. The complete speech from Brendan Burchard can be found on YouTube. I'll put a link to that in the show notes as well as a contact link for Brendan. Hey, one more thing before I go. As you're listening to this, I'll be in SEMA in Las Vegas all week connecting, learning and just enjoying everything auto-related. So when I get back, I'll have all my takeaways and my SEMA wrap-up for 2024, and I'll put that all together and you'll see it in an episode soon. So if you're there and you see me wandering around there, be sure to come up and say hi. Thanks again for tuning in. I really appreciate your support and I hope you have a great week. I can always be reached at wwwrickselovercom where you can find all my social media links, podcast episodes, blog posts and much more. Bye.